Redlights

Relationships work differently than self-improvement. Developing good relationship skills comes from a different set of tactics all-together. You can't take what you've learned about yourself and force it upon others. You can't make them understand. All you can do... is make them look at it. The trick is making the image as clear as possible. Get to the decision faster. Get to the answer. Stop spinning the wheels going nowhere.

Relationships, as you well know, are all about communication. Now listen to the next part very carefully. Every problem known to man, starts as a communication breakdown. Sounds crazy right? Let me explain.

Your life is basically you trying to figure out who you are. Meaning you are trying to understand something that is currently miscommunicating. Basically, it's you vs you, until you figure it out. Does that make any sense?

Once you start making progress on the "you vs you" problem, the next thing becomes managing your existing relationships from your newfound place of growth, instead of static mindedness.

This will present it's own set of challenges, however it is nothing you can't handle. This particular problem always looks worse than it is. Always. All you need... is the courage to face it.

You can do this.

The healthiest relationships are the ones with the healthies boundaries. What does that mean? Why does that work? I'll explain.

A real relationship between two people, allows each of them to be themselves, without that pesky voice telling them to stay quiet when they need to say something...

Listening to that "advice" is where the problem begins. Why? Because you just interrupted the flow of information. You just created a problem that wasn't previously there. What happens after that?

We go into a "just keep the peace" mindset. Don't ruffle any feathers. Don't upset anyone. Don't say anything. Just let it go.

Ok. But for how long? Or how bad does the problem get to become, before you step in and do something about it? Because the "just keep the peace" mentality only allows the problem to persist and grow.

So... what's the plan?